Because you believe that it’s unfair.
Do you know what depression really is? Depression is a feeling that results from giving up when dealing with an external stressful event by becoming indifferent to it.
Lets suppose you had a work related problem that you were unable to solve for months. if you didn’t respond to it or if you felt helpless for a prolonged period of time then sooner or later the stress resulting from the problem will turn into depression. Its as if depression is your mind’s way of saying “I gave up” or “This problem is too big for me to handle, I lost hope”
But what does this has to do with fairness or unfairness of life?
Is life really unfair?
It’s quite humiliating for your subconscious mind to accept the fact that you weren’t competent enough to deal with your problems, that’s why it doesn’t declare defeat directly but instead it searches for any possible excuse to blame it instead
But what kind of excuse can make someone feel good while having a big personal conflict like this one? As you might have already guessed, a new belief about life, people or the world that makes the person a victim instead of making him incompetent.
“Life is unfair”, “No one can get everything he wanted to get” and “You can’t succeed before you suffer” are common examples of false beliefs that your mind might use as a decoy not to present you with the real fact.
So back to depression, when people give up in when dealing with stress they become depressed and when people fail to deal with life problems they develop false beliefs about it such as “Life is unfair”
Both are defense mechanisms but the false beliefs one is a very intelligent method as it protects the person’s ego!
But life is really unfair
If you tried once and failed then surely you will find that life is unfair. Life was not designed for those who try once then give up but instead it’s more suited for persistent people who keep trying until they get what they want.
Ask any successful person, is life fair? He will tell you in the beginning it wasn’t fair for him but he kept trying until it became fair. Life will never be fair with those who don’t fight until it becomes fair.
Unless you keep trying until you create fairness life will always be unfair to you.
