If this is not the first article you read about building self confidence then most probably you have read advice such as “keep repeating affirmations”, “stop your negative self talk” and “don’t care about the opinion of other people”.
The problem with such advice is that they never reach your subconscious level and that’s why a part inside you will still feel worthless even if you did them. The only way to build self confidence is to reach that subconscious part inside you and convince it that you deserve to be confident.
Imagine that there is a small person living inside you whose job is to judge you and evaluate you. If this person thought that you are worthless then you started repeating affirmations and saying that you are great he will reply telling you “No you are a liar”
The only way to convince that inner judge, which is your subconscious mind, is to bring some kind of evidence to him.
But before you do so you must first ask him, why does it consider you worthless?
Lets suppose that the answer was “You don’t have friends” then the evidence you are going to bring must be in the form of new friends you make, only then you will feel confident.
The reason most people spend years trying to build self confidence with no results is that they take the wrong paths. A person who has a problem with his social life might try to fix it by becoming successful in his job and vice versa.
This guy is providing the wrong evidence and that’s why his subconscious mind never believes him.
Try to understand the real reasons that are preventing your subconscious mind from believing in you and this will give you a clue about the type of evidence you should provide in order for it to believe in you.
Self confidence can’t be built by using affirmations or positive thoughts but it can only be built through convincing your subconscious mind that you are worthy.
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