I read somewhere about how some women take it to heart to do better after divorce bringing out their most hidden talents and potentials.
Why wouldn’t she strive to succeed when for years she had put her life on hold just for the wellbeing of her family? Women most times are weak when it comes to pushing hard for their goals after marriage without the support of their partner.
In some cases, their husbands deprive them of such opportunities urging them to stay at home and take care of the family (Children) women are of course emotional (Phools) and can easily be convinced when it has to do with their loved ones.
Many women get too comfortable especially when the man is financially okay and they often feel no obligations towards pressing harder to go get that education, set up that business or learn a trade since OGA is doing all the work let me kukuma stretch my legs and just enjoy.
However, the moment things go South or west that is when eyes dey clear, some men can use their power to frustrate the hell out of their wives especially when the said wife is a liability to them.
When a man notices how deep you are into his money, he tends to feel very, I mean highly important and start abusing you as a wife.
Abuse in the sense that he uses that as a weapon each time there is a little misunderstanding he withdraws all the financial support some go as far as not giving food in the house, the wife will now be the one to source for food and feed herself including the children.. Surprised? It sure happened.
Another factor why women really go dirty to succeed after divorce is when the husband takes in another wife, that’s for the Muslims mostly and then he turns his back on the wife and eventually divorced her, she feels humiliated, she feels used and dumped because she might have lost some valuable productive years of her life in the man’s house.
And when suddenly he feels she has no use in his life it can hurt like h*ll itself and that also turns into a motivation for her where she vows to make him regret losing a priceless asset like her, because in most cases hisbands who ends up betraying the women who where there for them end up regreting such. (Not all the time though)
Imagine a man taking a second wife who is well educated and rubbing it on your face when in reality he was the one that deprived you of such opportunities in the first place.
Imagine your now rich husband meeting a self made woman and always tounting you of how useless you are when he was the one who stops you from engaging in any business, skills or education in the first place..
Because that time the woman who was very innocent and naive trusted the man who said I am making enough and you don’t need to work my income will sustain us and you stewpeedly believed him, he said he doesn’t want a working class woman and you settled for it
Then BOOM! His status changed, he made money, he has seen the world and is now very influential, he goes into meetings with the high and mighty and all of a sudden he feels the need to have a more “sophisticated” woman by his said.
And of course he finds this self made woman and then the shock, when you try to contest he shows you the way out, now that is the number one motivation for many women, she wants to go and equally make herself sophisticated and have all those qualities of the other woman.
She will want to prove a point that after all I wasn’t lazy or incapable, I only made sacrifices and obeyed you, but now that I ended up with nothing, let me go back and prove you wrong and probably turn things around for myself.
And so each time she remembers those negative words, treatment being said or done to her because they keep ringing a bell in her ears, she will keep moving with all the aggression, unleashing all her frustrations and getting back at the said husband, in-laws and or, society for treating her unjustly.
Because women like to prove a point and that if you ask me is the best kind of revenge to give to anyone, go out there and become great again, prove that you can do it, prove that you are also a sophisticated woman you were only not given the chance to showcase your worth.
The above and more is why divorce women succeed and become great again, so if you are divorce and confused, please don’t be, channel the frustration, the disappointment and all the negative vices you had to endure/experienced and tell yourself that I most succeed and focus on that goal, because, WOMEN LOVE TO PROVE A POINT.
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