1. CHECK YOUR ATTITUDE
No matter how sexy you are or dress, if you have a bad attitude, your husband will struggle to desire you. If you are ever complaining, negative, bitter, cold; he will keep off
2. CHECK HIS STRESS LEVELS
Sex starts in the mind. When a man is mentally strained, his penis will struggle to erect. Worry and desire don’t mix
3. CHECK YOUR HYGIENE
Your husband might want to do stuff to your body but if you don’t keep clean or take showers, he might find it difficult to do more than just penetration
4. CHECK HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH PORN
A husband who is addicted to porn or masturbation will rarely make sexual advances on you, you will be in competition with the fantasies in his mind and on his phone, not to mention his hand. If he is addicted, don’t judge him; support him to break the habit
5. CHECK YOUR TONE
The wife’s tone can easily turn off a man. A wife’s tone can even make a husband keep coming home late, not because he is cheating but because her tone is unwelcoming. Does your husband enjoy your company or do you expect him to love your presence even when you are harsh to him? If he won’t enjoy your presence, he won’t desire you
6. CHECK YOUR PAST RESPONSE TO HIS ADVANCES
Many wives turn down the husband’s advances then expect he will easily come back when she eventually wants pleasure. Men get tired too. The more you poor cold water on his advances, the more you push him away
7. CHECK IF YOU PRAISE ANOTHER MAN MORE THAN HIM
If you are ever praising your pastor, ex, father, brother, boss, favourite celebrity or another woman’s husband whilst you belittle him; you will bruise his ego. Men make love with their ego. Bruise his ego and you will discourage his fire for you
8. CHECK HOW YOU TREAT HIM IN PUBLIC AND PRIVATE
If you disrespect him or talk down at him in front of others or the children, he will let you be. A man who feels respected and admired gets turned on easily
9. CHECK HIS FINANCIAL ISSUES
Find out if he is going through financial challenges or fears, this hinders a man’s libido. Financial comfort leads to more sexual hunger. Show him you understand his effort
10. CHECK IF THERE IS A MAN YOU ARE ENTERTAINING
If you are chatting with or flirting with another man, you will easily kill your husband’s desire. Men don’t like to share or to know the wife is turning on another man. Show him you are faithful and he comes first
11. CHECK YOUR EXCUSES
If you keep lying that you are sick, on your periods or tired to avoid your husband, he will soon find out and switch off. Once he switches off, it will be difficult to get his hunger for you back. Don’t make excuses. Be honest, be real
12. CHECK YOUR FALSE ACCUSATIONS
Nothing hurts and turns off a man like being faithful yet the wife accuses him of cheating. Stop jumping into conclusions based on your fears and insecurities
13. CHECK IF YOU SOUND LIKE A BROKEN RECORD
If he tries to resolve issues with you but you keep bringing them up, he will be put off. He will see you and think “Here we go again”, making him turn the bedroom to nothing more than the place he sleeps but finds no peace. Men make love when there is peace
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© Dayan Masinde
