Alice Lovegood, 29, shared that she can never settle for a monogamous marriage or relationship because it feels dull to her.
She expressed that she has always being identified as polyamorous, and after nine years of marriage, she and her husband have agreed to explore relationships with other people.
She said: “I feel like I’ve always been polyamorous, but I never really understood what that meant or had a word for it, or that it was even a viable option.
“Then I started to learn more about polyamory as an option, and finally identified with people so I spoke to my husband and after we communicated we opened up to it.
How having an affair with other people helped their marriage, she said: “It’s put us in a position where I think because you’re choosing each other every single day, you have to turn up.
“You make more effort in nourishing the connection that you have and ensuring that you have quality time and space to communicate your feelings and address them, because if you don’t, then it’s not going to work.
“When you’re in a poly situation, you don’t necessarily need someone to fulfil every part of you. They’re enough as they are and what they provide is enough because you understand that you can have different needs met by different people, just like you would friends.
“I just always thought that there was something wrong with me because I desired connection with more than one person.
“I feel like this is integral to who I am. And I’ve always felt a little bit like a caged bird so we just slowly opened and communicated throughout that opening.
“We’re raised in a monogamous society and we have only ever experienced monogamy, it’s difficult to understand how you would feel about certain things until you do those things and then realise how you actually feel.
“As we both felt reassured and more secure we reduced the amount of boundaries, now we have complete autonomy over our decisions to be with others but communicate and discuss these regularly.
“I currently have two friends who are more than that but they’re not girlfriends, we are intimate together and I have a very deep connection with them.
“We like to take every relationship as it comes and let them develop alongside our own relationship and that’s really working for us at the moment.”
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