My Honest Advise To Ladies Desiring Marriage

By Boluwatife Ogunleye 

Some things warranted me to write this. It’s okay to have specs, but do not be over expectant about the status of a Man you desire to have, this is because by nature ladies are fond of looking down on your mate and men with equal status. A reason young Men are not encouraged to approach ladies of higher status. 

A Man can wait till he gets his desired woman, but a woman may not, because truly time is passing by. And as long as a Man continues to wait, he will always see a woman, because the younger ones continue to grow who will as well look down on their mates and look up to the grown men. This circle continues as long as life remains. But a woman has her peak, after which her chances reduce. Whereas a man continue to grow in values. 

A Man’s value is highly in regards of his possessions, but a woman’s value is highly in regards of her body which disintegrates faster than the Man’s. As much as a Man wants a prestigious woman, he will always consider the body looks and viability and not her money. Even if a Man marries a woman because of her money, such man may still crave another girl outside to please himself. 

Menstruation and menopause, are evidence that women’s body tend to have peak. Any objection to this is a matter of opinion. But the natural processes of life remain as long as life exists.

What then should be done?

Theres a stage that you attract Men the most. That stage you should be very careful and extremely prayerful. Don’t be so materialistic that you lose potential husbands. I discovered that ladies in their 30s don’t reason like those in their 20s. Something has changed. 

That reminded me of how our mates were pompous in 100L, they looked down on us, but in 500L they became more matured and related with us better. I observed also that women that married Men younger to them, did so in their 30s. Some of them today are wifes of Governors. Hence, there’s nothing foolish in their decision. They were in fact wise to have reduced their expectations.

I’m not saying we should be desperate, but I’m saying this so that we can reduce expectations. There are several Men fit for husband, but they’re not your spec financially, some are not your age mates. Whereas as long as he’s matured enough and capable, we should not hold on to status. Such men will in fact not forget your support when he becomes successful. 

Another fact is, as a woman you can make a man rich because the support of a woman is a lot. Ladies of today are not like our older women who showed supports to their men. Don’t be oppressive, rather be supportive. Don’t be too objective, rather be submissive. 

On the other hand, there’s no formula to getting a partner, don’t be confused by soothsayers and prophecies. No prophet told Joseph a carpenter to marry the Virgin Mary, but they coincidentally met and became fit for God’s will. In saying this I mean that, ours is to prayerfully take the step, God’s is to order the step. Just ensure the man listen to God, like Joseph when he wanted to put his woman away. 

This does not ultimately mean that marriage is the entirety of a woman. To be single is better to be wrongly married. Life is not fair to anyone, not fair to people who will marry a rich Man, not fair to people who will marry poor Man, not fair to those who won’t marry at all. Above all, live happily.

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